...if I can really do this. Not really about can I lose the weight, but can I move on with my life, can I get over this obstacle that seemingly holds me back. I say seemingly because I know that it hasn't always "held" me, it has often tried to protect me from my fears.
There have been so many starts and stops with me, and here on the blog, that sometimes I am unsure if I should keep trying. Look recently at my, and our, exercise campaign this holiday season. I, we, started off with much fanfare and enthusiasm, and then...
I can have the best plan of action, I can even act on it, but how can Ii be sure I have the commitment to get me through the boring dull patches, the plateaus, how can I be sure? I can't. Just another thing about life, nothing is sure. And there are worse things to be unsure about...for sure.
I came across this post by DietGirl. It is excellent, not because it mentions me, which it does, but because it brings up a point not many of us think about, "what if "? DietGirl has been losing at the rate of 1/2 pound a week, for 300 weeks and acknowledges that "what if " she had gone the other way and gained that 1/2 pound instead? I think it is sobering.
I think there are only three options in life really;
- You are moving forward.
- You are moving backward.
- You are idle, walking in circles.
Sometimes I wonder if I have what it takes to move forward. Certainly nothing in my life, or this blog, would indicate that I do, but...I can change for the better can't I? WE can change for the better, can't we?
Yes you, we can! I know for sure I am wanting to go backwards anymore and I am sure you feel the same way.
Posted by: Annie | December 01, 2006 at 12:52
EVERYONE can change for the better, whether it's about weight or something else. Like my bete noire, being a whiny nag.
Posted by: Margaret | November 30, 2006 at 19:17
wow okay.... to = two
Good Lord.
Posted by: Hilly | November 30, 2006 at 18:28
You know, I stayed stagnant for almost to years after losing 100 pounds. It took doing something *different* for me to succeed again...or maybe I just got tired of asking myself the questions.
I agree with Denise even though my eating plan is wayyy more hardcore structured; it is a matter of taking the unusual eating days that come to us, doing what we do, then moving on. I think we often get stuck in how we "mess up" rather than how we can just continue on and not worry so much about our mistakes.
Posted by: Hilly | November 30, 2006 at 18:28
You can change. You can move forward. It is hard and every day is a struggle. It is so much easier to give up on ourselves than to push. You are a strong person, you are worth the struggle.
Weight loss is so much more than weight. It is a mind game. What will happen when you make it to the next level? How do you keep going? What is going to change? What will stay the same?
Keep at it! You've got tons of support.
Posted by: Karen | November 30, 2006 at 17:48
I think we have to reexamine what "doing it" means. If we're still holding onto that idea that "doing it" requires adherence to some rule, some measuring stick (even if it's not a difficult measuring stick to achieve) then we're still setting ourselves up for failure. This...thing (for lack of a better word) cannot be about "I'll do this, this, and this and then I'll be OK" because Life comes at you and you have to be able to adjust and roll with the punches. Even a modified "plan" is still a plan in the end and we have to be careful that the plan doesn't become more important than the journey, than the small and critically important changes that we're making that will help us on our way. Does that make sense or am I just rambling?
Posted by: Denise | November 30, 2006 at 13:33